Stress is a huge problem especially for people in western societies. There are three types of stressors:

- Physical – Psychological – Environmental or Social. The first group of stressors affect physically, for example : hunger ,hot and cold, illness, pain and injury, viruses, lack of sleep.

The Psychological affects your mind. Examples are : loneliness, fear, death of a relative or friend, threats to security, rejection, depression.

The Social occurs on your environment and they are such as: unpleasant work, extreme weather, economic depression, family environment and friends.

The Job stress is the most important that dominates our lives. It’s high unlikely to find someone without stress. Some of the symptoms of stress are : Tension, anxiety and confusion . Withdrawal and depression . Feelings of isolation and alienation . Boredom and job dissatisfaction . Low self-esteem . So how you can reduce your stress?

One factor which is diminished is the nutrition. Most of us eat junk food, like fast food , snacks , refreshments which contain a lot of sugar e.t.c. That kind of food will cause illness sooner or later and there is no way you can reduce your stress. Another factor is smoking especially when is compined with caffeine. These two triggers the stress response.

Medical research has proved that during the stress situations particular vitamins are needed to maintain proper functioning nervous and endocrine systems.

Deficiencies of vitamins B-1, B-5 and B-6, can lead to anxiety reactions, depression, insomnia, and cardiovascular weaknesses, while vitamins B-2 and niacin deficiencies have been known to cause stomach irritability and muscular weakness. Their depletion lowers your tolerance to, and ability to cope with stressors.

One widely popular theory is that the body’s need for vitamin C increases when under stress.

The reasons are two: Vitamin C is stored in the adrenal gland. After the gland releases adrenal hormones as part of the stress response, the supply needs to be replenished. The production of adrenal hormones is accelerated by vitamin C. Vitamin C is also needed for the synthesis of the thyroid hormone. Thyroid hormone production regulates the body’s metabolism. Thus, when the metabolic rate increases under stress, so does the need for vitamin C.

Where do you find these vitamins, particularly B and C? The B vitamins are amply supplied in protein rich foods. Vitamin C is found in : citrus fruits, broccoli ,strawberries, tomatoes, green peppers

You may want to give special attention to foods that provide those vitamins affected by stress, but not to the extent that you neglect other important nutrients.

Relaxation is the best tool you could use in order to reduce stress. You can achive relaxation by following the techniques below: – meditation – yoga – hypnosis – deep breathing – Progressive relaxation

Relaxation essentially means paying attention to something calming. For example, you can concentrate on your breath and your body. Your aim is to calm your mind and lower your metabolism.

Stress management is a lifelong process. With a successful stress management program, you’ll note positive changes:

-In your own health and well-being . -In your relations with family, friends and coworkers . -In your performance your energy your concentration your ability to cope your efficiency

Remember when summer seemed to last forever? My mother use to say that some day we would realize just how fast time goes by. As usual, my mother was right.

It’s not that time has sped up but that our relationship to time has changed. We no longer have the perspective of time from a child’s point of view. After living some 40 plus years, we realize that in the grand scheme of things the length of our lives can be measured in the blink of any eye. All the more reason to be conscious about choosing how we spend our time and live our lives.

If you’ve heard the news lately, it’s been like listening to an old 45 record with a scratch in it. The bad news keeps playing over and over: gas prices are soaring, people are losing their jobs, we may all get sick with the Flu next year, and the war in Iraq goes on.

This repetitive onslaught of bad news has a spellbinding and paralyzing effect on us. We start to believe and act accordingly to what we are told. We even begin telling ourselves that this isn’t the right time to start a new business, leave a job, go back to school, or move. Then the “what ifs” start chiming in. What if I lose my job? What if I can’t find another job? What if I get sick? What if I can’t pay my bills?

This is what fear is designed to do: keep us from moving forward, from taking risks, and settling for mediocrity.

Yes, there will always be a reason why you can’t do something. The question is, are you going to let that stop you?

In the play, Steel Magnolia’s, the character Shelby suffers from brittle diabetes. She wants desperately to have a baby knowing that she is risking her health and going against medical advice. To her, having the opportunity is worth the risk. She says: “I’d rather live 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.”

What would 30 minutes of wonderful look like to you at this time in your life? Take a piece of paper and write
down what immediately comes to your mind. Maybe it comes to you in a word, an image or a feeling. If you find yourself staring at a blank sheet of paper, I will guarantee that if you hang that piece of paper on the wall, every time you walk by it, you will be motivated to fill in the blank space with your answer.

And, when you think about it, if you can create 30 minutes of wonderful then isn’t it possible to create a lifetime that is something special?

It’s only too late if you don’t start living now.

Nancy Bishop is Mid-Life Coach and Writer. She coaches women at midlife to create their life times as wonderFULL and something special.For more information about her coaching programs or to subscribe to her newsletter. Visit her website at http://www.yourlifeyourway.com

When thinking about mobile phones, there are regularly the similar few that pop into our minds and are the most used, all of these are 3G, 02, Orange, T Mobile and the most used Vodafone.

Started in the 1980s as Rascal Telecom, the retailer after became independent in the early nineties. Based in Berkshire UK; the mobile retailer are the largest telecommunications company in the world by contract and pay as you go sales and has a market value of almost 75 billion. The mobile company has equity interests in twenty nine countries all over 5 continents, one hundred and ninety million proportionate mobile phone customers and more than thirty partner networks.

In over twenty years the company have been in the driving seat of the mobile innovation. The company is used by so many people for the reason that the mobile firm is well known for their fantastic service. The business channels enormous investments into building a telecommunication network that lets all of their customers make more telephone calls from more locations than each and every other cell phone company, cheaply and while continuing to continue providing brilliant quality and reliability to all there customers. In the last 3 years The retailer has cut there call rates several times, as if they had cut their rates and services by fifty per cent per customer. The mobile business has enlarged its range of uncostly mobile phones and introduced more flexible payment schemes. Vodafone mobile phones are available from MobileShop, visit for the latest deals.

Telephone technology is improving rapidly regularly. The mobile business knows that their users are their number one priority so the firm want to make sure that the mobile phone users can use all the services safely and confidently. What makes the organisation the foremost mobile phone company to choose is that the firm do care about their users. Even if you do have problems there’s no need to dread calling as their call centres are in Britain and are able to assist you find an answer to all your problems and queries awfully quickly. The business repeatedly ask their customers about their experiences of using Vodafone as their specific mobile phone company and what they can do to make it better for them.

A List of Things to Be Afraid of

By Punkerslut

My psychiatrist always told me that mania is a mental illness. In my humble opinion, after the many years I’ve spent on this shithole of a planet, anyone who still experiences bouts of sanity after seeing the shit that goes on around them suffers from mental illness. I’ve pushed myself through so much shit that there’s just got to be some damage to those delicate think organs. All too often, there would be secret murmurs from a deep conscience, “just hold through this… one day, things will be better…” We’re all insane; it’s all really just a matter of the degree.

Item #1. Never forget… the misery you’ve had to pull through, like wadding through some shit swamp.

So, I’ve started a list. A list of things to remember. Because, as hope springs eternal, my little mental notes will one day fade out; that will just be my brain making room for alcoholism and disrespectful habits towards my best friends. One day, I’ll be satisfied. There will be good friends all around, a good career doing whatever (I ‘unno… I’m thinking mechanic or some such), and plenty of good times to be had. And, in that future, that dream I stumble on when I cruise these sidewalks, I imagine there will be plenty of things I forget. Among those, there is this: the shitty misery I’ve been through. I’m sure that the working class proletariat don’t need to be told what my life has consisted of. Nine to five jobs, those lovely few months of unemployment when it seems that nobody will hire you, approximately five hundred “just one more time” heroin uses, a note or two about love delivered via bar napkin… Poetic, sure, but misery is poetic. One day, I just want to be 100% sedate.

Item #2. Never forget… when you’re in love, you can’t trust yourself.

This is a valuable lesson. And, lessons as they are, this one ought to be valued. Sure, people will tell you, “Yeah, she fucked you over, but at least you learned from it.” But then again, few people only learn their lesson when the broken end of a vodka bottle rips through their face. Wait, I think it was a gin bottle… Yeah, it had to be. That was her flavor. We were sitting on the couch, drinking, television, insert typical setting component. My memory of the incident isn’t too great. I mostly remember the police officer asking me, “Can you see me? How many fingers am I holding up?” For some reason, my mind felt like it had calculated the situation with complete efficiency, and that the reply I was giving fit like a puzzle piece. “Don’t worry! I’ll show you how to tape the super bowl… That VCR was never really good. We were planning on getting it replaced anyway…” The officer asked me the question one more time, then called for an ambulence. The last thing I remember, she was being dragged away in handcuffs, fighting and screaming. I caught something like, “Fuck you! I never fucking loved you! This was all your fault!” After that, it’s all blank. When I got back out of the hospital and came to collect my things (heh), the neighbor told me: “Yeah, you sort of laid down after she was dragged away… You kept saying, ‘oh god, oh god,’ and stuff like that. Oh, yeah, and you started crying and were like, ‘I just need to lay down, please…’ Man, you must’ve been wasted.” Oh, that reminds me…

Item #3. Never forget… to get a copy of that police report.

I’m always curious what the real deal was with that. Who the fuck knows… Maybe there’s a small piece of wisdom I left behind. Something cliche like, “At 4:30 A.M., the victim kept repeating the phrase ‘you have to remember… you can do anything you want to.’” Once I get the police report (I really can’t afford $10 a page right now), I’m sure that I’ll be wealthy and with friends, and that little bit of wisdom is going to go a long way. I mean, shit, it might be something that’s not so cliche. It might be something practical. I could really go for a, “Hey, you should really check out this jazz album the cops recommended,” or something like, “Vodka and beer don’t mix well.” I’m pretty sure I won’t get something like, “When you’re in love, you can’t trust yourself.” That is going to be etched in to my brain for quite a few years. Yeah, that’s not long enough; hence, this list. Besides, fuck that neighbor. I bet I held up a little better than he describes.

Item #4. Never forget… you cannot outdrink any of the gang members from Hell’s Angels.

This, I would like to think, was actually one of the highlights of my life. I mean, how many people get to talk about the time they actually got beat down by a motorcycle gang? And not just any motorcycle gang. The Hell’s Angels. It started with a bar, a motorcycle gang (Hell’s Angels, yes yes), and five gallons of cheap vodka. It seemed that I became drunk, beligerent, etc., one of them insulted me, and I just swung. Like my past experiences with violence, either there was so much alcohol and drugs or the violence was so excessive, that most of the memories of the incident are blurred. Fortunately, I am told, I didn’t get killed, which was a real risk, I guess. But, fuck that. Any time you can’t — oh, wait, this should be the next item…

Item #5. Never forget… any time you’re afraid of doing something, just because you might die afterwards, is a time that you officially have labelled yourself as a pussy. Go get drunk and think about the decision you’ve made.

Actually, fuck that. I don’t need a reminder for that. Maybe I need a reminder on like, getting regular therapy to treat that ideal. But, a reminder for that? Fuck it. Scratch that fucker off…

Item #5. Never forget… anytime you’re afraid of doing something, just because you might die afterwards, is a time that you officially have labelled yourself as a pussy. Go get drunk and think about the decision you’ve made. (I suck. I can’t believe I wrote this… sub-item #5: get therapy, heh.)

Item #5. Never forget… always make time to get wasted with your friends.

This is an important note. Any lengthy amount of time during life that does not include getting off in some way or form will first burn, tear, rip, and eventually destroy you. If at any time, you think you’ve been sober for far too long, immediately take a ride to the nearest liquor store and get some booze. Friends are a plus in this situation. Even if you have to fuckin’ mark it on your calendar, make sure you gets wasted with your friends. Whether you do this with an orgasmic game of scrabble, fuck parties, heroin, or plenty of alcohol is your decision. I’ve done all as a means of associating with my friends, and I have to tell you, scrabble fuckin’ sucks. It really is good to spend time with people that you can associate with. It’s absolutely necessary. It is in these moments of profound intoxication, forgetfulness, and sheer bliss that you get such beautiful exchanges as, “I’ll sell you my soul for a shwill of that beer… and not the bottom part of the beer, either…” to things as interesting as, “I really need to stop killing people; this shit is really cutting in to my schedule…” I’d make another item, not to forget your friends and to always be there for them, but that’s a part of item #5. Actually, to make sure I don’t forget…

Item #5. Sub-clause. Never forget… to be there for your friends when they need you.

There have been some good friends, some bad friends, and not in any way you might recognize. My best friend introduced me to heroin, and that’s not why he’s my best friend. And, one of the greatest friends I ever had (who I’d like to think was never my friend), is now my worst enemy. It was because he sided with my family members when they tried to have an intervention on my drinking. I agreed to listen, so long as I could drink Bacardi… and so long as someone else was paying for it. That fucker. He was all like, “I don’t think that’s a good idea that you drink at all.” It was his disagreement to Bacardi, his opposition that gave my family more negotiating leverage. I finally did make a deal for a six-pack of generic beer, in exchange for listening time. But still, if I could have gotten a bottle of Bacardi, that would have been the coolest intervention of my life. And for that reason, Joe-Bob-Bill (whatever) is now my worst enemy. This, devoted and trusting reader, brings me to my next item.

Item #6. Never forget… to completely distrust your family.

There are a few sub-clauses, amendments, and “what if” altercations that come along with this item, but I’m sure that I’ll be able to fully recall them all if I ever need this list of things to remember for advice. I don’t really know what the situation is, you know, different cultures all around the globe with different values and different family relationships, and the way people even in America have learned to evolve and change things. I really do think that your family’s implied impressions of you can truly take a very degenerating toll on your mind. For so long, you’ve been at their mercy. Prejudices, bigotry, hatreds, loves, inadequacies expressed through rage and violence… All of this is passed to you, not just by genes (if by genes at all), but by the way your family acted and behaved when you were just a young tot. I’ve come to the very clear conclusion that your family cannot be trusted. The natural, mental process, the one that tells you to always respect and honor your parents’ opinion, you have to interject that with, “They’re lying to you.” It needs to become instinct. So, when you get something like, “I think you have a drinking problem,” your conscience needs to react: “They’re lying to you.” Then, you can reply, “Drinking problem? I call this a drinking solution. Ha! I made you look stupid.” This instinct needs to act like a filter. So, you can hear a family member say, “Hey, I think your girlfriend is violent and you should break up,” your conscience goes off sending you a warning, and then your brain processes: “Hhhmmmm, they could be right.” But, I’ve already got crazy, psychotic girlfriends covered in item #2.

Item #7. Never forget… to not call your landlord a “cuntfuck” unless you have a lease.

This item is rather self-explanatory.

Item #8. Never forget… to forget everything you learned in school.

I’m sure that few people would disagree with me on this point. Children are herded in to these enormous buildings. You can’t piss without permission. You can’t walk without permission. Those who are independent are punished. It’s not education. Real education elevates your mind and creates independence for you. When you can’t piss without an authoritative figure’s nod, you’re nothing more than a fuckin’ slave. Forget everything you’ve learned. Those stereotypes you picked up between smoking weed in the bathroom and juggling numbers in class, that style of living that has you cowering in fear… I could go on and on. Facts are facts, and this will always ring true: if you can’t forget what you learn from school, you’ll be cursed for life. Everything from your career to your family and your relationships. Fuck school. If you have any respect for it, then stay the fuck away from me.

Item #9. Never forget… there’s always time to change.

I suppose that’s the ultimate point of this of this list. When I look through these items, I remember every time I’ve made a personal resolution, a commandment to myself. And, everytime I think of those resolutions, I think about the moments I abandon them. They seem like difficult moments. I hear echoes of family, telling me, “That’s because you never finish anything you start,” or maybe I’m looking at a police officer through the bars of a holding cell, listening to the same old argument: “I didn’t have to bring you in here, but I did.” For every promise that I’ve made to myself and broken, I’ve made another promise. I guess that’s why I’ve labelled this, “A List of Things to Be Afraid of.” Right now, I think I’m going to go out to the bar with my friends, see if I can outdrink anyone, and see if I can fall in love with some stranger. If anyone ever finds this list, I’ll make sure to tell them, “Don’t take that advice to heart, kid… Living life like that just isn’t worth it.” To all the mistakes I’ve made, I suppose the hardest thing I have to learn is that I can always change.

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Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is a nobler art of leaving things undone…The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of nonessentials. Lin Yutang

As an American mom of three school-age children, I am entering, as many of us are, the busiest time of year. Sure there are other busy times, but nothing seems to quite compare to (Dare I say it?) the holiday season. This is a time many of us enter with fear and trepidation. The shopping, the wrapping, the baking, the decorations, the lights, the parties, the preparing for parties, the clean up after the parties, need I say more? If you are a woman, chances are you know exactly what I’m talking about. Perhaps the worst part of it all is the build up of expectation that the season never seems to live up to. But, it doesn’t have to be this way, however. We can choose a different path and actually enjoy this time of year for a change.

The first step to enjoying the holidays is to let go of the expectations. I don’t know about you, but every year about this time I begin to let “visions of sugarplums dance in my head”. I want everything to be just perfect. I get a storybook picture in my mind of what the holidays should look like. It’s a romanticized version I think I conjured up from some Norman Rockwell painting that never actually existed. The problem with expectation is that it limits the possibilities of what beauty there actually can be.

The next thing we need to do is to decide what is most important and concentrate on those things. Make choices this year. Don’t try to do every party or event. Go in with a game plan and decide ahead of time what it is you truly enjoy and focus on these things. Decide on just a few traditions that make you happy. And here is the key; say no to the rest. You will be tempted by all of the wonderful happenings that are going on around you, and they are all great opportunities. But when we do too much, we don’t really enjoy any of it. Learn to choose consciously and say no to everything else.

Now, are you ready for the most important part? Once we have laid this groundwork, we can get down to savoring the moments for what they are. These can be fun times. Enjoy them. Stay in the present and enjoy the preparation as well as the actual events. Just slow down, be in the moment, and savor it as it is.

This is all about conscious choice. Your idea of a fun and beautiful holiday season may be completely different from mine. If you enjoy baking for everyone in your family, then by all means do it. Just savor it. And don’t overdo it to the point where it’s no fun anymore. Let go of the impossible expectations, choose what’s most important, and savor what you do choose. This is the recipe for a fun and joyous holiday season. Yes, it is possible. Then, take these principles and apply them to the rest of your life and see the difference they make. The thing is, “just perfect” can exist, because it already does. We just need to see it.

HOW TO FORGET YOUR EX IN ONE DAY

After breaking up most people have hard time to forget their ex, this is because in their mind they still processing thoughts about their ex.

Just like a hot pot, it takes time to cool down so is their mind.

This thought process may continue as long as they allow it.

But the beauty of the mind is that it is not bias to any command. It accepts anything we tell it to do. We can use this to our advantage by telling it to stop thinking about our ex

Here is an example on how to do this…

Imagine your mind to be like the tap water and your thought process like a flow of water. You can control any amount of water flowing by adjusting the cork. If you want to have a full blast or small drops, it is up to you.

Just like water flow, you have a full control of yourself. No body and I mean no body will ever control your mind except you.

If someone tells you to do something, you have full control to do it or not

Now can you allow yourself to imagine that tap water flowing at high speed, be your ex memories . Those bad memories, pain, abusive relationship.

See the water flowing… the higher the speed, the more pain you may have. As you can see now that, the more turbulence the water becomes the more your thoughts process in your mind are. You might feel lonely, depressed or may be frustrated.

Now you can control the flow of water by corking it , you can adjust it until it tightens. Everything will be calm and there will be no more turbulence.

As you remember the way you were tighten it, your mind will be slowing thought process. At the time there was no flow of water, your thought process in your mind about your ex will be gone.

Try to do this exercise ever day by imagining the flow of water be your ex’s drama. The more you reduce the water flow the more you reduce“your ex’s“ memories in your mind. If you do this several times a day you might forget your ex.

sincerely,

Timeo Busyanya,

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Clean shirt, new shoes

‘Coz every girl crazy ’bout a sharp dressed man.

- ZZ Top

ZZ Top and the Fashion Police aren’t lying. If you want to make people buy from you, you have got to start looking ultra-professional. Ever see a sales page featuring testimonials from goofy looking dudes with messy hair and scrappy tee shirts? Would you buy from these people? Hell, no! Check these five ways to Buff Your Web Guru Shine so People Will Pay You The Fees You Deserve.

1. Update Your Photo.

Ditch that shot of you at the family picnic. Get a professional photo taken where you’ll be bathed in flattering light with your hair just so and that crisp attire that says “Power Marketer, Baby.” On a budget? Try a photoshoot taken by a good friend who knows how to use a digital camera.

2. Refresh Your Author Bio.

Log in to your favorite article website and take a good look at your author profile. What’s it say? Does the message reflect your current offering, or is it still advertising yesterday’s tired old news? When appropriate, entice your readers to a web page that tells your story and includes live links of websites where they can re-route to discover the “you” that best matches what they want to read.

3. Fix Your Logo.

Trying to portray sleek and savvy, but your web logo says “Romper Room?” Too many colors, cartoon-like fonts, too bright, too busy. These are all things you MUST CORRECT if you want to be a sharp-dressed web marketer with a hot logo that tells the story. Call a real designer who achieve that look you want – and if he doesn’t, ditch him.

4. Get a Tagline.

“Terrestrial” marketers have been using logos and taglines to brand themselves for centuries. Brainstorm a unique one-liner that distinguishes your business from the rest. Make it catchy, something that people will want to repeat over and over. After the line, share your URL and make sure it’s clickable. Finally tell the customer what to do: “Click here for more information.”

5. Put it All Together.

Giant corporations leave their signature stamp behind on everything they touch – their billboards, magazine ads, TV commercials, phone book listings, menus. You need to do this in your web travels, too. Leave your sign-off, URL and call-to-action wherever you roam – blogs, articles posts, emails. Every single Power Marketer on the web does this and it’s what you should be doing, no question about it.

Okay – so we’ve covered the basics of your “marketing appearance makeover.” We both have a lot of work to do, so let’s go buff that shine.

Copyright 2005 Dina Giolitto. All rights reserved.

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Alcohol problems are now called Alcohol Use Disorders, and include both abuse and dependence. The problems associated with alcohol use are well known. Alcohol is associated with auto accidents, increased violence, loss of jobs, and loss of lives. What makes it possible for most people to have a couple of glasses of wine, beer or hard liquor at a party and stop, while others go on to have serious problems with alcohol?

What are the signs and symptoms of alcohol abuse? Alcohol abuse is a pattern otherwise known as “problem drinking.” The behavioral warning signs of alcohol abuse are:

Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol frequently (The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism has established two drinks per day for men and one drink a day for women as the limits to safe drinking) Drinking when it is dangerous (such as driving) Frequent excessive drinking (known as binge drinking) Interpersonal difficulties with family, friends, or co-workers Legal problems related to drinking. Alcohol abuse may initially be diagnosed in young people who recently began drinking. However, they may also be involved with other drugs, without alcohol being the primary substance they are using. Although some alcohol users abuse alcohol without becoming alcohol-dependent alcoholics, over time abuse may progress to incurable alcoholism.

What is alcoholism (compared to alcohol abuse)? Alcoholism, also known as alcohol dependence, differs from the alcohol abuse pattern in three critical ways. It is:

chronic progressive, and potentially fatal. The symptoms of alcoholism include those of alcohol abuse plus four serious additional symptoms:

Craving–A strong need, or urge, to drink Loss of control–Not being able to stop drinking once drinking has begun Physical dependence–Withdrawal symptoms, such as nausea, sweating, shakiness, and anxiety after stopping drinking Tolerance–The need to drink greater amounts of alcohol to get “high.” What are the effects of alcoholism? Alcoholism is a disease that lasts an addict’s lifetime. The consequences of alcoholism are serious. Heavy drinking can cause:

increased risk of cancers of the liver, esophagus, throat, and larynx liver cirrhosis immune system problems brain damage harm to the fetus during pregnancy (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) that may impact the child’s brain, resulting in learning and behavior problems male and female incontinence (usually related to cirrhosis) loss of erectile function, leading to impotence Denial is an alcoholic’s strongest defense mechanism. But even if the alcoholic is quite aware of these serious implications of heavy drinking, the craving that an alcoholic feels for alcohol can be as strong as the need for food or water. An alcoholic will continue to drink despite serious family, health, or legal problems.

People who do not drink or who are alcohol abusers but not alcoholics sometimes do not understand why an alcoholic can’t just “exercise a little willpower” to stop drinking. However, alcoholism is an addiction that little to do with willpower. Any addiction has both physical and psychological components that make it extremely difficult to break. Almost all alcoholics need the aid of external treatment to help them succeed in overcoming their addiction.

What causes alcoholism? People drink in many social situations, but also use alcohol as a means to “self-medicate” other problems, such as stress, anxiety, depression, or mental illnesses. No one who takes a drink thinks he or she will become an alcoholic. While it is not possible to predict whose drinking will lead to alcoholism, there is growing evidence of certain causal factors. The most recent scientific research points to two main areas:

Genetics. Studies conducted among twins and children of alcoholics have shown that genetic factors influence alcoholism and that children of alcoholics are about four times more likely than the general population to develop alcohol problems. Currently, researchers are working to discover the actual genes that put people at risk for alcoholism. Another branch of investigation is into whether there is a specific area of the brain that is different in alcoholics, and whether genetics may also be a factor in this. Lifestyle. Just because alcoholism tends to run in families does not mean that a child of an alcoholic parent will automatically become an alcoholic, too. While genes partially explain this pattern, more than one-half of all children of alcoholics do not become alcoholic. The risk is higher but other factors may increase the risk for alcoholism:

friends and social activities the amount of stress in one’s life how readily alcohol is available role-models (family, friends, or media heroes) who drink What should you do if you suspect alcohol abuse or alcoholism? The biggest obstacle to treatment of alcoholism is getting the alcoholic to break through the denial that is a hallmark of this condition, to realize that help is needed. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism suggests that you ask the following four questions that can help you find out if you or a loved one has a drinking problem:

Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking? Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking? Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking? Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover? More than one “yes” answer means it is highly likely that a problem exists. If you think that you or someone you know might have an alcohol problem, it is important to see a doctor or other health care provider right away. They can help you determine if a drinking problem exists and plan the best course of action. Among the steps that can be taken are:

Discuss the benefits of stopping your drinking pattern Set a drinking goal, either abstinence or a limited amount Examine the social or pressure situations that trigger your drinking Develop new ways to handle trigger situations so you can maintain your goal Attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for support Consider Moderation Management (MM), a behavioral change program and national support group network for people who are not alcoholics but who have made the decision to reduce their alcohol consumption. This program is based on the premise that alcohol abuse is a learned behavior (as contrasted with alcohol dependence, which is a disease). For those who are not alcoholics but recognize the need to reduce their alcohol use, MM provides: a program for problem drinkers that is not abstinence-based a mutual-help environment to help people cut back on drinking before it becomes a dependency issue empowerment to take personal responsibility for deciding if moderation or abstinence would be a better individual choice information about alcohol and moderate drinking guidelines and limits drink monitoring exercises goal setting techniques self-management strategies If a friend is diagnosed as being an alcoholic but is unwilling to get help, you can’t force him or her to do so. However, many alcoholism treatment specialists suggest the following steps to help convince an alcoholic to get treatment:

Stop all cover ups and other “enabling” behaviors (don’t try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking) Time your intervention (the best time to talk to the drinker is shortly after an alcohol-related incident has occurred) Be specific (use examples like the most recent incident to show how his or her drinking has caused problems) Explain to the drinker what you will do if he or she doesn’t seek help (do not make any threats you are not prepared to carry out) Gather information about local treatment options (if the alcoholic is willing to get help, call immediately for an appointment with a treatment counselor) How is alcoholism treated? There is no “one size fits all” treatment for alcoholism. Instead, there are many different treatments that depend on the needs of the individual and the severity of the abuse. Treatments might include:

therapy to help individuals understand their behavior and motivation and improve coping skills medication to relieve withdrawal symptoms and control cravings self-help and support groups. Treatment can be provided in a variety of settings:

medical facility residential setting (round-the-clock or half-way “sober living”house) outpatient Therapy

The three most commonly used behavioral treatments for alcoholism are:

motivation enhancement therapy cognitive-behavioral therapy, and 12-step facilitation therapy These treatment options have proven to be effective in reducing alcohol problems and fostering abstinence. One large-scale study found that each of these treatment modalities significantly reduced drinking in the year following treatment. The study also found that about one-third of the study participants who were followed up either were still abstinent or were drinking without serious problems three years after the study ended.

Self-Help Programs

There are a number of self-help programs that help the alcoholic deal with the disease.

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is the largest self-help organization:

founded by alcoholics group meetings facilitated by members meetings take place on a regular basis daily, at various times, and in many different locations around the world attendance is voluntary, and membership is free members are free to attend any of the many meetings held each week includes support from fellow members who either are struggling or have struggled with the same problem uses a buddy system (“sponsor”) and group intervention to help members when they are tempted to relapse or do relapse uses the 12-Step Program as guiding principles (developed by the earliest members of Alcoholics Anonymous; adopted and adapted to many other self-help programs) abstinence-based personal recovery program from the substance or addictive behavior person admits his or her powerlessness over the substance or behavior turns his or her fate over to a higher power “as you understand it” follows steps to examine the effects the behavior has had on his or her life, to accept responsibility for damage caused to others, and to make amends There are also several non-12-Step programs available, for those who have other interests, special needs, or who object to the “higher power” or “powerlessness” basis of AA:

Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS)

a network of independent meetings with an alternative recovery method promotes abstinence and provides support from others struggling with the same issues encourages self-empowerment approaches to recovery for those who are uncomfortable with the spiritual content of AA takes the approach that sobriety is a separate issue from religion or spirituality credits the individual for achieving and maintaining his or her own sobriety, without reliance on any Higher Power SMART Recovery (Self Management And Recovery Training)

aims toward abstinence, with focus on self-empowerment, self-reliance, and self-directed change based on principles of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) teaches specific tools and techniques within a 4-point program Enhancing and Maintaining Motivation to Abstain Coping with Urges Problem Solving (Managing thoughts, feelings and behaviors) Lifestyle Balance (Balancing momentary and enduring satisfactions) Women for Sobriety (WFS)

Founded in 1976, this is the only national organization focusing specifically on the needs of alcoholic women, whose recovery in AA was found to be less successful than for men. Premises and structure are:

the psychological needs are different for women than for men weekly meetings in small groups of 6-10 women, with a structured format for confidential discussion based on thirteen positive statements to encourage emotional and spiritual growth, with emphasis on: positive reinforcement (approval and encouragement). cognitive strategies (positive thinking). letting the body help (relaxation techniques, meditation, diet and physical exercise). Outpatient Treatment

Outpatient treatment refers to treatment that does not require overnight stays in the facility. Treatment can include drug education, individual and group counseling, education groups for caregivers, and case management services. Outpatient treatment varies in the types and intensity of services offered. For example:

night classes allows a person to maintain a job requires more personal self-management intensive outpatient day programs in hospitals for adults who requires continuity of treatment becoming a common treatment option typically 8-hour treatment sessions, including group therapy with emphasis on preventing relapse, managing stress, and communicating with family.

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Why don’t you conduct some test runs, and enjoy the recreation at one go? Just make sure that you won’t get seized and expend your entire retirement income on a caprice… Otherwise you’re bound to catch yourself distressed till the end of your life…

At times in life we get disappointed. You put time in at a job only to get laid off without warning. You open your heart to someone and they abuse it. You trust someone and they let you down. These feelings that come from these experiences can be devastating. I won’t sit here and say just get over it. But what I will say is do not allow it to consume you and stop you from being the great person that you are. Yes, bad things happen to good people more often than bad things happen to bad people. There’s no rhyme or reason to that equation. The one thing that you do have power over is you. It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you react to what happens to you. When something occurs that dampens your spirit, be with it. Don’t try to pretend that you’re not angry, disappointed, or crushed. Play your sad songs, eat your comfort foods, sit home and watch your movies. Do whatever you do when you get into that dark space and do it with gusto. Give yourself a time period of how long you plan to waddle in it, three days, a week, a month. Be clear with this and stick with it and when the time is up let it go. Put the food away, turn off the songs and the movies and prepare to step back into your greatness.

Get a writing pad and a good pen and prepare to write about the awesome experience you just had that is allowing you to grow. Answer the following questions honestly and fully.

1. How did this situation start? Give complete details on how this situation came into being. Where you met. How you were introduced to the company.

2. What were you expecting from it? What did you want to get from this experience?

3. What happened? The gory details. Don’t edit yourself get it all out and on paper.

4. What did you learn? Dig deep and include the negative and the positive results.

5. How can you grow from this? In this answer, only write down positive ways you can grow from this experience. If necessary pretend you are talking about someone else that this happened to and you’re giving them advise.

Then write down “I forgive name the person or company or whatever it is for their involvement in my lesson in life. They were just a vehicle for my future greatness and I thank them and release them. I now call my greatness forth with love.” Then tear it up, burn the paper in an ash tray and flush the ashes down the toilet.

What you just did was powerful. You acknowledged the entire experience. What you expected, what you experienced what you felt, what you learned and how you can grow from it. Then you forgave and released the experienced from your vibration. You no longer have to relive it over and over. Once you’ve done this, you open yourself up to a blessing. When you can forgive people, places, or situations you release the power they have over you and in essence, you get your power back.

Always remember, you are a powerful light on the planet. Things may happen that may temporary dim your light, but never let anyone or anything keep you from shining and being the magnificence of who you are. You are powerful!

Doreene Hamilton is a speaker, author, and transformational teacher.
She is the author of “Spiritually Speaking,Get Over It!”
http://spiritualmuse.com